Shape up or ship out

What would I tell anger?

Thank you for deciding to go away. But, you need to hurry up.

This pace is getting us nowhere. I mean, there is huge progress but since you’re a human trait I guess you are no good to the world’s benefit these days. Humans loving other humans is taboo in few places so I wouldn’t doubt how you are perceived.

Do people love having you? When you put your face on theirs, do they smile? Or, do they cry behind you? I bet no one likes having you. And, that’s the thing. Why do we have you? Confusing our little minds you seem to have control about, you always disappoint.

Some days you have a voice like you are a dinosaur. And, on others you are as quite as my fish in the ocean.

Why do you even exist? Just go away. From my life and from these words.

Go out with Pappa

Of all the people I enjoy my life with, my father is a tough person to have clarity about. Not that I don’t have fun with him, but just that it is not obvious enough for anyone to know. Not even the two of us. I often forget how I couldn’t get luckier to have this person in my life. He tries to be the friend. And, that’s more than enough.

I believe that’s how fathers and sons have lived around, trying to be. This relationship is way more complicated than a couple about to be divorced. There is no scale to tell how bad a couple feels about falling apart. But, definitely, a relation between the father and a son does not fall into the discussions of a ‘scale to measure goodness.’

By the way, I wouldn’t doubt about my interest in science to be vastly influenced by his take on the subject. To which, I owe him a lot.

As I see it, this uncertainty is not about being jealous or disliking each other. That is clearly not the case. It is more about not being obvious to the love between us. It’s there, but we don’t acknowledge it to the world. Which is just beautiful enough to be real. It’s also frustrating to not know. The only problem is men are so shy about the feelings they share that it’s hard to even admit. So are women. So is anyone who gets to live and have the sense of emotion on this planet.

I wonder when will we get past the current age where people say “He’s just like his father” or that “He is overprotective about his son.” This is mostly possible when men realise that being a man doesn’t mean to ‘not’ be feminine.

I read in a book, incompletely, about how the art of being masculine is to be appreciative about the femininity that your genes carry. Because, guess what? Your mom is a female. Meaning, to be a man is to be a human. It’s more than being just the opposite to a gender. I don’t know how the topic went from talking about my relationship with my father to masculinity.

Maybe that’s because he’s the first man I ever saw. Happy birthday, Pappa!

No one can help your writing process

If anyone had a solution to this problem, they’d be telling you their own method. Be it zoning into your desk-space or walking freely in the park to get ideas. However, there are some problems which remain common enough to be dealt with as a creator.

Let me tell you that methods are not solutions. They are just the ways you choose to do your work. The last thing a creative space would want is glorifying a common method in the face of a solution. Please, as a friend I say to fellow writers struggling with their process, don’t fall for the Internet’s loud voices. Please don’t look for solutions in the way you need to deal with writing.

Trust me, after searching these methods for nearly four years I have learnt something valuable.

There is no solution that will solve everything.

Why? Because, your problems as a creator are bound to be unique to yourself. And, so should be your ways to dealing with it. I wouldn’t know if you had problems with getting up early while my solution keeps talking about the benefits of waking up at five. It just doesn’t work even if it sounds good to have a pizza ritual every paragraph written. Exception, eating somehow feeds every known tummy and the brain. So, this ritual might work and I don’t recommend doing it alone. By the way, you wouldn’t even know if I was talking about five in the morning or the evening.

Okay, let’s not get distracted by food. But, if you’d like to – nobody’s really stopping you from having your favourite dessert. Just let me know where I can find it. Deal?

Be whatever your problems are, I am sure the solutions you thought would help just haven’t been friendly enough. Sometimes, they do awesome contributions to the writing process and other times it feels like a truck ride to the moon. We just haven’t found a way to do it.

Does this mean we stick to the ride and keep believing in it? It’s not only highly hopeful to build a bridge to the moon, it is mostly impractical. Surely we could try doing it as an experiment for fun. And, that’s all writing is about to me. It’s about having fun. Why else would I even do it?

All I want to say is, don’t let the big words on your tiny screens decide your process. Find one for yourself because there is no right one out there for everyone. But, there is a right one just for you.

And, if you’re okay with it – you’d also probably be okay without it. That is the ultimate dream, I hope. Because, guess what? You are the creator of this method and there’s no way you can’t create another one. It’s unique and at the same time even a solution to defining your problems. Talk it out and let’s keep writing safe from the tragedies of productivity!